D
o you see red when others criticise you?
Or may be you react by feeling hurt and offended?
Sometimes criticism can be really painful.
Good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way. Many people, including me, have learnt to develop a much more positive response to criticism and become more resilent.
Follow these 6 steps to build your resilience. Write down your responses to each step
1. Think of a belief holding you back eg I’m oversensitive to criticism
2. Write down the opposite belief eg I’m resilent to criticism
3. Define new comfort zones (ie activities and situations in which you feel comfortable) and self-talk (ie thoughts, what you say to yourself).
eg I react in a more positive way to criticism, Criticisms make me feel curious rather than hurt, Let’s find out exactly what they mean, Let’s look for other evidence, I can choose whether to be curious or to think flight or fight
4. What would it be like to hold this new belief?
eg Criticism is feedback from someone lacking in feedback skills
5. How would your behaviour and results change?
eg I react positively to criticism
6. Spend 5 minutes each day visualising yourself using these qualities. Visualise what you would see, hear and feel. Visualise how the people around you would react. Enjoy the experience. Keep these steps and your written responses with you so that you can review them and revise them so meaningful for you.
When you find it’s working for you let us know how it feels by leaving a comment below.
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